Sunday, October 30, 2011

9 weeks to POP

HELLO WORLD!

So much for coming back after 2 weeks and updating this huh?

Anyway, army life sucks to be honest. However, as the weeks go on you just get used to it. The trick for me is to take it week by week. Every week, just look forward to Friday, the week passes much faster that way.

Moving on, the first couple of weeks were hell. I'll be honest, there we countless times I just felt like doing something stupid like committing suicide just so I didn't have to go through army. It was torturing, mentally and physically. The weeks went by and you got to know people, your bunk mates, platoon mates. It made things a lot easier as everyone there felt the same way and everyone was going through all the shit together.

Also, what really kept me going was knowing there is still an outside world, the civilian world outside tekong. The everyday messages i receive from Chrystle, a good friend, really helps me through the days. Of course other friends too. Just stepping into your bunk and reading a message from your friend is really awesome and helps you get through the day or makes your day.

Right now we're 10 weeks into BMT and we've got 9 weeks left. Feel a bit cheated though, 19 weeks isn't exactly 19 weeks. It's actually like 21 weeks. It sucks, but every male Singaporean has to go through it after all.

I really want to thank Chrystle and the other people who constantly message me in camp and help me along this army life. It really sucks, trust me. Of course there are the funny moments which really make you laugh, laugh hard. There are the shitty moments which you hope don't come. There are also the AWESOME moments when it rains the whole afternoon and we spend the whole afternoon resting in out bunks.

On the whole, army life still sucks. BIG TIME. On a brighter note, I'm down 15 kg from enlistment, hope it doesn't stop!

Till next time!

`i'll be your reason.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

The special one

I somehow feel I've actually typed this post out before. I'm lazy to check my history. If my memory serves me right, I've done this. Well, I'm feeling that same way now. So...... HERE GOES!

Each time you receive a message from that "Special someone", you'll know it. Your day just gets that much brighter, the moment of sheer happiness you feel when you realise the text you received is from that someone. The feeling is indescribable. You take just that few seconds to read it and send a reply. Just one text can make your heart beat faster and faster. The one text can make you feel like every other bad thing that happened in that day just vanishes.

It's a wonderful feeling. It doesn't come by often, sometimes it takes forever for that special someone to reply, but when that very text comes, you just feel that moment of happiness. You realise that no matter how long the person takes to reply, it's WELL WORTH IT!

Each time I receive your text, that's exactly how I feel. It's amazing. What trumps that? When that special someone just drops you a random text on a bad day. Just a simple "how've you been?" It's mind-blowing how easily that one text can change your mood. It's amazing to feel that way each time I pick up my phone and see that the text is from you.

Moving on.....

22nd August. Serving the nation.
As the day draws near, the regrets start to pile up.
22nd August 2011. The day I leave home to join the army.

The date has been made known to me for several months. However, you only start to realise the reality of it all as the date becomes closer. Now it's one week before the day I head down to Pulau Tekong and regrets are pouring in. Not spending my time more wisely, not taking the time to spend it with friends, catching up. As the day grow closer, I begin to regret not letting you know exactly how I feel.

I'm saying this as if the army is gonna be where it all ends. HAHA. It's not. I just realised a lot of things as the date draws closer. A part of me just wants to go into the army feeling like I did everything I want to. In reality, that will never happen.

I'm pretty happy that I spent a lot of time travelling and visiting places I've never been before. I guess there will definitely be regrets. I guess if the feelings are there, army shouldn't change that. 22nd August. This will probably be my last post before going into the army.

So to the FEW readers of this blog, check back in about 2 weeks, I'll try and drop a post in.
Till then...

CYAH AFTER ARMY!

`can't you see that I'm the one who understands you, been here all along.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

I'm the guy for you, you'll see.

Like how I start every post recently, it's been a while.

I just haven't had the inspiration nor anything meaningful to blog about. This space has became so redundant that I feel the need to blog only if there is something worth blogging about. That brings me to this post. The inspiration for it? A dream I had last night. Ironic?

I've been so inspired by this dream that I'm actually considering typing it out, into a book or a short story. For now though, this blog will be my space for self expression.

So anyway, here goes!

The setting was in a foreign country, as far as I remember it was Japan. I was happily on a holiday with some of my poly friends. It starts off on a train, or rather some mode of transportation, could have been an airplane. We were at the boarding stage. Everyone had to climb to these seats that were elevated from the ground. The seats we were allocated, we being myself, Drusilla and Chrystle, were on the highest level. This meant we had to climb up a couple of flights of stairs before reaching our seats. Chrystle apparently headed up first. Drusilla and I were still making our way up. When we reached, Chrystle was all buckled in. Drusilla made her way to her seat and realised she forgot something, she then made her way down the steps while I got buckled up. She was followed by this girl, in the dream we knew her, her name was Samantha. I don't know a Samantha in real life but that's irrelevant for now. So Samantha and Drus made their way down.

This is when it happened. The dream version of me woke up, or rather the next thing that I remembered after buckling up, was that I was standing alone in the middle of a rather empty train station waiting for a train. It was a UK-styled train station where the architecture was rather old and different. Confused? That's exactly how I felt. Thoughts ran through my mind "what happened? Why am i here? Where are Drus and Chrystle?" I then decided to approach this lady who happened to be one of the few people waiting for a train. She was seated on a bench, covered with several layers of coats and winter-wear. I approached her and said "excuse me miss" Before I could go on, this girl looked up and I realised it was Chrystle. She looked up at me with a look of disbelieve, as if she had seen a ghost. I flooded her with questions and as I went on and on, she looked bemused. Among the questions asked were, "What happened? Why are we here? What happened on the train/airplane? Where is Drusilla?"

The first words that come out of her mouth "you don't remember?" She started explaning the story. According to her, a strange event occured in our airplane/train. It was said to be a mystery, something science couldn't explain. She was not sure about everything, apparently there were a lot of grey areas for her. She also mentioned that she was traumatized by the whole experience. In addition, she said she has no idea what happened to Drusilla. The whole incident left Chrystle questioning everything that was going on in her life. She seemed lost, not knowing what to do. Friends in her life didn't seem to matter. She looked as though she was planning to spend her entire life sitting on that particular bench. Before she went back to her bench she mumbled these exact words "If you want to find Drus, find Samantha"

I was determined to find Drusilla, in the dream she meant a whole lot to me. I had feelings for her. I'm sure i did. I also wanted to know exactly what happened. It was then that Chrystle lifted a newspaper she was reading and I realised, the date of the newspaper that day, was the same date that we were all on the train. That was when I realised something paranormal was happening. I decided to search frantically for Samantha. Then as I looked up at the train passing by, I saw her sitting alone in one of the cabins. I rushed in just as the train doors closed behind me. She looked up at me, and before I could say anything, she said "follow me"

She then brought me into the next cabin where there was this group of girls dressed in Japanese school uniforms. There stood a really familiar girl, with her back facing me. This girl turned and looked me dead in the eye, there was a spark and we both realised there was something special there. The girl was Drusilla. In the dream, before the whole extraterrestrial event happened, I was in a relationship with Drusilla. I knew I had feelings for her, I didn't know I loved her and was in a relationship with her. In that moment, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I said "Hi pretty girl?" She looked at me, gave me a confused look, and said something in Japanese. That's when Samantha grabbed me and said "she doesn't know who you are, she doesn't even speak english" Samantha explained that the event caused many things to happen, one of which was to create a whole new life for Drusilla. In this new life, she never met us, or rather she doesn't remember meeting us. Her only memory is that she knew we were once part of her life. Samantha went on to explain, saying that was why when our eyes clicked, she knew I was someone special to her. Her life now was a Japanese student, speaking only Japanese and not knowing a single word of english. Samantha couldn't explain what happened on that very day, all she knows is that everyone's life changed from that day forth.

I sat with Samantha for a while after that, talking to her about what happened and the things we used to have. I looked up and Drusilla and I said to Samantha "she's the one and she still remembers me and I know it. So I still want to spend the rest of my life with her. Regardless of whether she remembers me or not." I walked up to Drusilla and said "I love you, though you may not fully remember who I am, I'm the guy for you Drusilla, you'll see." Though she didn't speak english, she understood every word I said. She responded in Japanese, which one of her friends translated for me, "I don't know who you are, but there is something about you that makes me feel like you mean something to me. Do I know you?"

And...... That was when I woke up. How interesting my dreams are. If only I could write a book, a movie, a play. I could write my own beginning, my own ending. I can write about how I want the ending to be. It's like a perfect love story albeit cheesy one. I could draft my own love story. Am I supposed to be a writer? Is that why I dreamt about this? Is it just because I watch too many movies that my dreams play out how I want my life to be at this point?

I don't know, all I know is that I'm intending to write this out properly into a story or a book. I don't care if it never gets read by anyone else but myself. This dream made me realise many things. It was a part of my life. Hope you enjoyed the story.

P.S. Drusilla is a really close friend in real life, so is Chrystle. I guess a reason my dream played out this way is because I have/used to have feelings for Drusilla. The thought of me spending my life with her had crossed my mind. For now though, she's a really good friend.

`I'm the guy for you, you'll see.

Monday, June 13, 2011

time

Haven't had the inspiration to blog, life has been pretty boring.

Fine, not boring, but I don't really like blogging about trips.
So summarizing everything, I headed to Malacca/Melaka and Batam this week. Both pretty fruitful trips, nothing amazing or inspiring happened.

I guess the most "blog-worthy" thing about the 2 trips was that I spent almost every waking minute of it thinking about a girl. Who's this girl?
Let's just say she's special.

Just as I mention that, another "blog-worthy" topic came to mind. Recently, a girl I used to have a crush on in my secondary school days started messaging me again. Like I mentioned in one of my previous posts, I believe it was called "Soft spot", something along those lines. Anyway I'm drifting from the point. This girl, started messaging me out of the blue as if we've been talking all along, asking for advice on guys and all. I'm not saying I'm not willing to help, I admit I'll always have that soft spot for her, but what bothered me more was how it was so random.

We haven't spoken in months, or rather years and when we do speak it's really short. It all started with me meeting her at the Taylor Swift concert (AWESOME by the way, but that's irrelevant for now). Things just got better from there.

Whats so random about that you might be wondering? I believe if you hit the archives button on the right you'd probably realise why. Just for those who are too lazy, this girl, Yiwen, avoided me almost my whole secondary school life and a couple of years after. That was what made it weird.

I guess it just takes time for someone to be comfortable again with another person. I believe I made her really uncomfortable when she found out about my feelings for her. It took 3 years before we started talking again, maybe more. However, I'm REALLY glad we're better now. It's one of the 2 friendships I hoped to get back. The other being Charmaine. I guess time will tell then.

Just for knowledge purposes, Yiwen wasn't that special girl I was thinking of.

Till next time.

`Time heals many wounds, it healed mine.

Monday, May 30, 2011

Lying awake

Have you ever had that moment at night or that few minutes/hours where you just lie aimlessly on your bed trying to sleep? You know you want to, yet you can't. You then spend the whole time staring blankly at the ceiling thinking about everything under the sun.

Today, or rather most days, I find myself doing exactly that.

You spend the time thinking back on the awesome moments in your life, along with the moments that hurt you, the moments worth looking back on. You start playing out scenarios in your head about what would happen, what could be, what if. Before you know it, you realise you have just spent about 2-3 hours of your life just thinking. 2-3 hours of mere thinking, amazing isn't it.

Few days back, I played out a scenario in my head.
Made the scenario a reality, and the rest is history.

Hope you enjoyed the surprise as much as you said you did.


Happy Birthday Drus. =)

`Staring aimlessly at the ceiling, I wonder if you felt it like I did.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The dilemma

I'm back from a long hiatus. The laziness took over my passion of writing and is probably the reason why I'll never become a successful writer. I've got some inspiration for a new post. As such, I thought I'd share it with whoever still reads this dead space. Feel free to drop a comment in the revived "chat box"

Back to the post.

Have you ever had this dilemma or this choice you had to make but couldn't do it because you weren't sure what would be right? Everyone has to make choices, more often than not, the choices they make never turn out right. How then do we know which is right?

I realise today that there is no answer to that question. You can spend days, weeks, months deciding which choice you intend to make. When you do decide on one you think is right, it often ends up wrong. Everyone goes through this everyday. I say why waste time deciding which choice is better, when you'll never truly know what the right choice is until you've decided and have to face the mere truth that you were wrong.

My dilemma? Simple actually. It's a dilemma I have been in before. You see, I once had feelings for a really unique girl. She's your typical cheerful, happy-go-lucky girl who brings joy wherever she goes. This girl was Charmaine Foo. She was my classmate in my poly. One fine day, after countless days with her as a friend, I realised "She's the one" or at least I thought back then that she was. I had this dilemma then, do I risk everything I have with her, friendship, classmates and let her know how I felt or do I keep everything in and one day look back on what could have been?

I was crazy about her, couldn't stop thinking about her. I spent days and nights thinking about what I should have done. Yes you guessed right, I went for it. Risked everything, and the result? I lost a friend and we hardly spoke since. You see, it's such a simple decision, yet it could change your life and change everything that happens in your life. The worst part is, Charmaine wasn't the first person I had this dilemma with.

That brings me back to the present. Right at this very moment, I have the exact same dilemma, just with another girl. One side of you keeps telling you to go for it, the other says play it safe and don't risk it. Of the vast majority of things that go through a person's head, this would probably rank in the top 10. What do I do?

Based on past experiences, nothing good ever comes from confessing to a girl that you have feelings for her, I've learnt that the hard way. Result? I've decided to play it safe and don't risk it. Yet everyday I sit down and wonder if I made a mistake. You see that's the thing about choices, if I did choose to tell this special girl and all doesn't go according to plan, I'll regret it. Yet if I choose not to, I live everyday wondering what could have been.

Dilemma? That's life for you.

`you mean the world to me, yet the fear of rejection and losing you as a friend has kept me from saying "I Love You"

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Are you happy?

When I was in the hospital today visiting my grandaunt, I had the inspiration for a post. I was sitting by the bedside of my bed-ridden grandaunt.

She was resting, eyes-shut. She's not well and suffers from dementia and can't remember many things that go on in her life. As I sat by her bedside, I felt the chill of the environment and the sad aura that surrounds the hospital. It was then that my grandaunt opened her eyes and looked straight at me. I smiled and she asked the question that inspired my post "Are you happy? You have a very nice smile and you look sincerely happy" I gave her a hug. She didn't recognise me, didn't have a clue who I was, yet she told me I looked happy.

Then I thought to myself, why shouldn't I be happy? I am happy, I'm glad I am. I mean, there's only so much you can do with your life, and if you live it in regret or in sadness everyday, that wouldn't be living life to the fullest. I have a family, friends and a home. There is no reason I shouldn't be happy.

This post goes out to those feeling sad, angry, or basically just feeling unhappy. Everytime you feel that you're unhappy, think about how lucky you are to be living your life. Think about how lucky you are and what you have as opposed to what you want. When a person is unhappy, he/she should think about everything that makes them happy as opposed to thinking about the unhappy memories.

Easier said than done? I beg to differ. Everyone can, and they know they can, they just gotta believe it.

Are you happy?